Editorials

Dear Readers:

Here's something for you guys to try, pass on to your friends and all that want to learn some vocab as well as give back to the community. It's a chance for you to give some rice for those in need and learn some vocab. This was passed onto me from a friend out in Boston.

http://www.freerice.com/index.php

Please enjoy, a little will go a long way.

Sincerely,

Devan

Dear Readers,

Over the last few weeks, I've been talking a lot about dating. However, the main goal is to find a significant other, someone that you can share your life with. In this editorial, I would like to pay tribute to all the girlfriends/boyfriends/husbands/wives that exist in our lives. Dating is another world, but no matter what people say I believe, the soul reason for its intricacy, is because people are looking for that "one" person. If you have found that person, then you know how dating is really just "school," to learn how to be your best in a committed relationship.

I've always had the mentality that when you are "dating," that's what you do, but when you have found someone you truly care about, and would like to share a lot of your life there is no feeling like it, and that's the beauty of it all. You can date and date and date, but when its that person you want to commit too, the light automatically can and should shutoff. This is also the reason why you'll find your friends disappear off the face of the earth during a relationship. As a friend, you may be disappointed, but as someone in a relationship you completely understand and is happy for him/her.

As much as dating is good way to gain perspective about relationships, its the relationships you develop that when you are fully committed, that really shows who you are. The way you look at your significant other, the way you think about them, and the way you may long for them when you are far away from them. As you grow mature in your relationships, you automatically are able to observe whether or not you would be able to share your life with that person. Once you have found it, its better than any type of "dating."

So for all of you in relationships today, I challenge you with this. Do something special for that one person you care about. It could be as simple as an unexpected phone call during the day, or as extravagant as some flowers. Keep that person in mind at all times because the alternative would also be what would your life be without them. For those of you, still searching, "practice" away, may you reach your goal soon enough.

Good Relationships.....make it a priority today.

Sincerely,

Devan

Dear Readers,

Everyone should take a step back and reflect on your life today. Where do you stand at this point in your life? Have you defined what being "content" means to you. Don't let your life pass you by, make the changes you need in your life in order to take a step closer to where you want to be.

It could be as little as calling a friend you haven't called in a while or as big as signing up for that night class you've been talking about. Whatever it is, allow you, to affect yourself. Do something that will make you feel like you've accomplished something today. Sometimes it takes a reminder, to allow your mind to move past what you continue to do everyday.

As for myself, I'm here writing to you, allowing myself to affect people in the way I know best. Expressing my thoughts freely and sharing my experiences with you. As I look back on my life, I feel like there is so much more to do, but I'm very content. My expectations are low but my dreams are big. Here's a poem I wrote sometime ago, and I liked to share it with you the readers. This is my step forward, one of the few times I've shared a piece of my writing and a piece of myself.

The Hand of Fate

Fate holds its hand to me but I can't see its destination,
Can I wake without it leading me to a place I don't want to go.
But that's the mystery in it all, Why things happen, Who it happens to, and When it happens,

It's only a piece of its palm...asking should I believe or should I deny?
My mind only knows but one idea, to follow the path it leads.....
Sometimes no where, but always a reason.
Sometimes somewhere without a cause.

But always here is where I stand.
Wondering the reason and questioning the cause.
I live for today, remember yesterday, and expect nothing from tomorrow.

This is how I'm content at Fate's Hand.

By Devan

Thanks for reading,

Sincerely,

Devan

Reader Writes:

Hello Devan!

I've really enjoyed and am very grateful for the perspective that you've given. Sometimes, in our situations, we forget to take ourselves out of the picture and it's nice to have someone that's not emotionally involved or bias. We all should just remember that we should take everything with a grain of salt. So thanks!

Dear Thankful,

You're very welcome, and I appreciate you taking the time to read and write back. It does mean a lot to me to know that readers can gain something from eachothers situations. Whenever some type of connection has been made it feels like the purpose of this community has been met.

Your words are a compliment, and I'm flattered by your honesty and appreciation. Thank you. It brings about a thought, this is something people do not do enough of. This is how we can make a difference in someone's life each day. A single compliment doesn't cost you anything, but can really change another's day. Think of the last time you were given a random compliment, and how did that make you feel. If more you were able to do this each day, you've made a difference.

I challenge other readers to do the same today......pay a compliment to someone you know, be sincere and you can see how it brings about an intrinsic goodness in both you and the recipient.

Looking forward to your continual support,

Best Regards,

Devan

Dear Readers:

Thank you to everyone that has read and posed questions. I hope you've enjoyed reading my thoughts and experiences thus far. So far all of the questions have been great. I appreciate them and truly look forward to answering as many as possible.

Some of the questions that have come along the way, that have not been posted, have to do with what I'd like to accomplish by creating Dear Devan? I wanted to create a medium for people to seek advice without worry that someone will judge them. It also allows people to go outside of there comfort zone and ponder some of these questions as well. My goal for Dear Devan was to get to a point where someone will rather than writing a question they will start by saying, "If I were that person I would......"

For me, I find helping other people quite therapeutic and a way to make yourself a useful contributor to society. If you think you have advice, I'd love to hear it.

It's definite, that I do not have all the answers, I just use what I've known or seen in my life and apply them to your situation. I promise if I come across something that is beyond my understanding and experiences, I'll do my best to assist you in seeking answers.

I'll do my best to be resourceful, and I take every question personal. It's very disappointing when you send someone a question and no one writes you back. Your questions and opportunities to help you is appreciated. Allowing me to hear a piece of you is quite humbling.

Stay tuned to daily posts, maybe one of these answers apply to your life. But more importantly maybe you can take some of this and help someone you know as well.

Here's my question of the day for you.

When was the last time you took time out of your routines in life and called a friend you haven't talked to in a while?